Herpes is a word that is never ever taken positively by anyone on this earth. Do you know what makes it such a big cause of concern and fear? Why everyone is scared of herpes? The one who is not infected is threatened by the thought of getting the virus. And those who are already infected lives in even more pathetic condition. One is the social rejection that causes them to isolate themselves from the society on being diagnosed with herpes. Another is the shame and regret of becoming a transmitter that compels them to put their years of long relationships to an end. We will tell you the most important 10 reasons that make herpes the worst thing that can ever happen to you.
1.There is no sure shot way you can prevent it from transmitting to your partner
If you believe in yourself and try to prevent the herpes simplex virus traveling from your body to your partner’s, trust me it is impossible. We have vaccinations to prevent certain diseases from occurring; also we have polio drops to nullify the chances of your child getting the polio virus. But with herpes, you do not have anything like this. The first condition of preventing any disease is that the carrier should be well ware about the status of infection. In herpes many cases are seen where people live there entire life without knowing they have herpes. Yes, sometimes herpes simplex virus does not display any symptoms at all, and at other times they are so mild that it becomes difficult to identify them as herpes. In both the cases, the carrier himself is not aware about carrying the virus, and how come he can think of avoiding transmission?
In case you develop clear symptoms of herpes, or by any other chance you get to know that you are infected, you will have to gather concrete information about the prevention mechanism, which is quite hard to get. Yes the internet is populated with more than sufficient information, but hardly some percentage of it comes from authenticated sources. Now, if you manage to get the details, you will try to mark the period of outbreak as the most vulnerable time. Suppose your outbreak lasted for about a week and during this time period, you took uttermost care and tried to avoid any type of contact with your uninfected partner. After a few weeks you find your partner experiencing symptoms similar to herpes. You must not believe it at first but there are high chances that it is nothing else but herpes. You can transmit the virus just before the outbreak, at the time when you were not feeling anything odd but the virus was there doing its work. Or you can also gift your partner herpes simplex immediately you are over an outbreak. In short, you cannot guess when the virus will transmit, and using precautionary measure like condom also reduces the chances of the infection but do not assure it 100%.
2. Herpes affects you not only physically, but targets to break you emotionally
The virus targets our cells, but we and our society makes herpes effect our mind even more than that. The entire world comes later on, but we our self start believing that we have done some crime. We blame others and get into calculations from where we might have got it. The carrier may then experience sadness and confusion, as well as shame and embarrassment, as the notion of being infected is finally accepted. The day you hear the news from your doctor claiming that you have been infected from herpes must be the most dreadful day. It is not the fear of the disease but your main concern is something else. A person may experience a variance of emotions, ranging from disbelieve to anger. This may be especially true for those diagnosed with genital herpes. Feelings of disbelief may morph into feelings of anger or resentment aimed toward the person that may have infected them. Many people with Herpes, especially soon after being diagnosed, feel shame and embarrassment and fear telling anyone they have it. Others feel guilty and full of self-blame thinking that they “brought it on themselves”. Some individuals feel that they are being punished by God for their sexual activity. And still others fall into a depression and suffer from low self-esteem, wondering if anyone will want to date them or be sexual with them again. All this makes it impossible for herpes patients to recover from an outbreak. Click here to know more about how to deal with herpes and its symptoms.
3. It is impossible to find out from where you got it
This is the universal truth regarding herpes. The one who is newly diagnosed with herpes is filled with anger towards the one who gave the virus to him/ her. Some of them do not even know exactly who the culprit was, but they keep on tying the knots to complete the chain and get one name so that they can simply curse him / her. Unfortunately there is no way you can reach the exact person who was a carrier and also a transmitter for you. The most probable name may have herpes but this in no way necessitates him being a transmitter. Contrary to this the one you cannot even think about might have gifted you with a small kiss.
4. It is not society alone that is not ready to accept the truth but you stand at first place
We not at all are ready to accept the truth that we have herpes. Acceptance is important as it makes things settled and easy. You know the truth, you know you have herpes, but the brain is still fighting to accept it. It is nothing more than a medical condition that could happen to anyone. But because of our sluggish mentality we are making it the most dreaded stigma.
5. There are more myths than true facts from which you can gain awareness about herpes
Only diagnosis is not enough, you should be aware of the entire process of infection, its treatment methods. Living with myths sometimes misleads you and may also lead to complications. And trust me; there are more false facts than truthful realty as far as herpes is concerned. So, better be aware than doing the wrong choices based on myths. Enlightening yourself with awareness, correct information and support on how to effectively defeat herpes is the very first step towards total healing. Unfortunately, this is the most difficult thing. Yes, gathering information, or should I say correct information is the most challenging task for herpes patients. This is mainly due to every other article saying its own story about herpes.
6. Herpes virus can transmit from one person to another even when there are no visible symptoms
This is contributing greatly to the speed at which the herpes virus is transmitting from one human being to another. There are quite high chances of the virus being transmitted from one individual to the next before and after the outbreak. This is called asymptomatic shedding where the individual sheds virus from various parts of his/ her body without realizing what he is doing. Suppressive antiviral therapy significantly reduces asymptomatic shedding (and outbreaks). Valacyclovir taken daily can reduce risk of transmission to a partner by as much as 50%. But again, nothing can drop it to nil and the remaining 50% are the chances of transmission only. This clearly indicates almost half of the infected people will become transmitter of the virus even after taking suppression pills.
7. You cannot tell anybody how you are feeling
I bet you would not find it much difficult to find herpes patients as there are many out there, but only online. You cannot tell anybody how you are actually feeling and what are you going through. Only a herpes patient can understand your emotions and negativities. Talking to them, knowing their condition, and sharing your experience make things common, but nobody is comfortable discussing their condition, especially when it has something to do with herpes. If you somehow manage to talk to someone like you, you may not feel alone, and also can get really helpful tips to tackle with your outbreaks.
8. If you are pregnant, your baby may get the infection from you
Herpes can have devastating consequences for your newborn. Herpes is much more complicated than is often perceived to be during pregnancy. With all the good feeling of becoming a mother, the enthusiasm of holding the baby for the first time, the ecstasy of imagining his first cry and what not come a responsibility to keep the child safe and healthy till the delivery. If you have had herpes for quite long time, you must have so many questions in mind regarding the affect herpes can have on you unborn child. Approximately 1500 newborns are affected by herpes every year. We call it neonatal herpes. Every year, out of all the newborn babies, around 1500 women transfer herpes to their small and sophisticated infants. This is really disappointing as those tiny eyes cannot tell the experience of having herpes at such a tender age. Do you know what herpes can do to you body? Herpes infection is life threatening for newborns. Yes, it can not only ruin the skin and beautiful eyes of your baby, but can also reach his brain through the nervous system.
9. Antivirals prescribed for treating herpes make it worst
These drugs and painkillers can suppress the effect of the reoccurring outbreaks due to herpes infection; Antivirals can significantly reduce the frequency of outbreaks, sometimes dropping it to nil. But you cannot overlook what it can do with our body in addition. Even after introducing so many side effects the antivirals fails to delete the virus from our body. It can wake up anytime in future and once again make us experience the same discomfort. It’s a bitter truth that whatever the doctor prescribes cannot do anything to free your body from virus. Rather it just slows down its working, its intensity and can reduce our time of suffering. Antivirals even add to the problem making it worse by gifting different side-effects. Click here to know more about why you should never use antivirals for herpes.
10. Herpes has no complete cure till date
Significant amount of research is being done in the field of herpes cure by taking into account its widespread effect. But the state still remains the same as: once the virus enters your body, you can’t get rid of it you can only lower the number of herpes outbreaks you have. Research was going on two decades back and it continues to go on. With every coming year our calendar changes dates but we stand far away from actually curing herpes completely.
These were the 10 reasons that altogether make herpes not an easy situation to deal with, making it the most dreadful sexually transmitted disease of the time.
Recently, I found out a very interesting news that herpes is curable. Many people have been successful in doing so.